Remember the Good Times
In the popular video, The Secret, the narrator points out that an affirmative thought is hundreds of times more powerful than a negative thought. When you apply this idea to your relationship, it means that holding onto a positive thought about your partner is a powerful and effective way to start improving things. Here's how: remember a time when your partner made you smile, warmed your heart, or the two of you had a really great time together. Take a breath, close your eyes, and bring back that favorite memory as if it's a scene from a movie. Spend a few minutes watching and enjoying.
The next time you start getting frustrated with your partner, bring that positive memory back to mind. This person really does have some wonderful qualities, and it helps to remember them.